It turns out procrastination is not typically a function of laziness, apathy or work ethic as it is often regarded to be. It’s a neurotic self-defense behavior that develops to protect a person’s sense of self-worth.
You see, procrastinators tend to be people who have, for whatever reason, developed to perceive an unusually strong association between their performance and their value as a person. This makes failure or criticism disproportionately painful, which leads naturally to hesitancy when it comes to the prospect of doing anything that reflects their ability — which is pretty much everything.”
I’ve posted this before but I’m posting it again because it’s just so important and really gets at the heart of why so much advice about procrastination, much of it targeted at people who have ADHD but are just considered “lazy,” fails. Before you can tell someone to “just do it already,” you need to think about the reasons they’re NOT doing it, like all the meanings they’ve attached to vague terms like “success” and “failure.”
Relevant to my current situation.
Carl Theodor Thiemann (Austrian, 1881-1966), Bach im Winter II, 1912. Colour woodcut
We cross our bridges when we come to them and burn them behind us, with nothing to show for our progress except a memory of the smell of smoke, and a presumption that once our eyes watered.”
— Tom Stoppard (via shotgun-eyes)
I am thankful for love. My mom told me on the phone today that my daffodils bloomed. I just ate a quarter of a raspberry tart. I’m happy to have simple, lovely things like daffodils and raspberries (though I will always forget the p in raspberries). I’m happy to have people that make me laugh at the ridiculous humans we know and our own foibles.
I am struggling with my own issues and sadness and stress. But sometimes the goodness of things shines through.
I’m thinking of changing my url to iambabayaga
Baba Yaga is a slavic witch who eats children.
yay or nay?